THE POWER OF SELF TALK.
THE POWER OF SELF TALK
The Power of Self-Talk
Before
we discuss ‘What is Self-Talk?’, let me tell you one interesting thing.
Every
one likes Saching Tendulkar. I also like him very much.
The legendary batsman hit 100 centuries in his sparkling career.
However, do you remember the struggle that he underwent before hitting his
hundredth century?
After
completing his ninety-nine centuries, he could not hit his hundredth century
with ease.
He almost played 34 innings before he managed to hit his
hundredth century. During this period of thirty-four innings, on few occasions he
got miserably failed just by scoring single digit runs and on some other occasions
he missed the landmark score after almost touching the higher scores of 94 runs
and above.
What could be the reason?
The
Self-talk is the driving force within us which will make us win or lose.
Even
the master blaster is also not an exception. His negative self-talk made him
lose the golden opportunity.
What
is Self-talk?
Self-talk
is something you do naturally throughout your waking hours. People are becoming
more aware that positive self-talk is a powerful tool for increasing your
self-confidence and curbing negative emotions. People who can master positive
self-talk are thought to be more confident, motivated, and productive.
Even though you might
not know it, you’re already practising self-talk.
Self-talk
is basically your inner voice, the voice in your mind that says the things you
don’t necessarily say out loud. We often don’t even realise that this running
commentary is going on in the background, but our self-talk can have a big
influence on how we feel about who we are.
Whatever
be the amount of motivation and inspiration that we get from training
programmes, books, teachings etc, ultimately how we talk to ourselves in real
life challenges is the key to success.
Your
self-talk alone will decide your performance, when you are in the middle of the
examination, job Interview and other challenging situations like driving in
heavy traffic, giving a presentation on the dais, playing crucial match, attacking
an enemy in a war etc.
Our
personality, our self-belief system, expectations from others and our own
stress levels all these things play a vital role in designing our self-talk.
The
self-talk can be positive or negative. But all said and done, the self- talk
drives us.
95%
of our emotions are the result of our self-talk or the inner dialogue.
The
self-talk keeps on going in our mind like a powerful river.
How
to develop a positive Self Talk?
The
positive self-talk alone will give us better performance. The positive
self-talk can be developed deliberately.
We
should always be giving positive self-affirmations to ourselves.
Some
useful positive self-affirmations:
·
I can do it
·
It is easy
·
I achieved so many great things in my life so far
·
I am lovable
·
I am capable
·
I am important
·
I can always win
Why
to develop positive Self-Talk?
Our
mind can not be free from self-talk. If we do not develop a positive self-talk
deliberately, it will get filled with negative self-talk automatically.
Our
mind is like a garden.
The
garden is nurtured carefully. We plant beautiful plants, water them, give them
proper pesticides, fertilizers etc, we keep away the insects, pests etc.
If
we donot nurture the garden , automatically the weed gets developed, all the
garden is filled with thorny bushes and unwanted plants.
In
a similar way if we need to take care of our mind with a deliberate positive
self-talk. Otherwise by default negative self-talk creeps in.
As
a result we will be pessimistic, we lose hopes on life, we doubt our own capabilities
and our performance gets lowered.
What are some examples?
These scenarios are examples of when and how you can turn
negative self-talk into positive self-talk. Again, it takes practice.
Recognizing some of your own negative self-talk in these scenarios may help you
develop skills to flip the thought when it occurs.
Negative: I’ll disappoint everyone if I change my
mind.
Positive: I have the power to change my mind. Others
will understand.
Negative: I could not give seminar effectively and
embarrassed myself.
Positive: I’m proud of myself for even trying. That
took courage.
Negative: I’m overweight and out of shape. I might as
well not bother.
Positive: I am capable and strong, and I want to get
healthier for me.
Negative: I let everyone on my team down when I
didn’t score.
Positive: Sports are a team event. We win and lose
together.
Negative: I’ve never done this before and I’ll be bad
at it.
Positive: This is a wonderful opportunity for me to
learn from others and grow.
Negative: There’s just no way this will work.
Positive: I can and will give it my all to make it
work
Profile of the author:
Vivekanand
Rayapeddi
“Pioneer in
Paperless Fluency”
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Trainer /Success Coach /
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